The “not being enough” stories are actually destructive, sabotaging our best efforts. Instead, we can adopt a practice of choosing again, to accept ourselves okay as we are. We are perfectly imperfect! Work in progress! Rather than focus on what we are not, we can begin to appreciate what is good in us, as starting blocks to improve.
Our mind is constantly busy judging wrong from right, bad from good, weak from strong, safe from dangerous and so on…. We can’t help the workings of our brain; it is called the default mode or negative thinking bias. It is part of our survival mechanisms; thousands of years ago, we thrived because we were continually looking out for what could be threatening. It lead to our survival, but today it does not help us to be happy.